I recently said “goodbye” to a dear friend. She’s following her dreams all the way to California. I am so very happy for her. I truly am. At the same time, the adjustment to not having her right around the corner is difficult. Yes, we’ll still be friends. Yes, we’ll Facebook and Skype and Facetime. But it won’t be the same, and I don’t like that one bit.
In the practice of yoga, we’re taught about Aparigraha – a Sanskrit word for non-grasping. It means taking what’s necessary and nothing more. It means not clinging to the desired outcome. Like, finding peace around the fact that a friend is moving 2,000 miles away. Or, knowing my Crow practice is exactly as it should be, even on days when my feet don’t leave the floor.
I’m continually fascinated by my recurring need to know the ending. I’ve faced a lot of challenges in my life and, despite me, they’ve worked out fine. In many cases, they’ve worked out better than I could have imagined. And, yet, I fight it. And, when I fight it, I miss out on living in the moment. I get so wrapped up in the future, the beauty right in front of my face becomes blurred. I don’t want to live that way. As my friend, Alec, says, “Why do we humans keep getting in our own way?” Great question.
Part of my challenge is coming to terms with wanting to clutch things because they matter to me. There’s got to be a way for me to care about something and honor it, while trusting it’s good the way it is. Even if I think it should be different.
Time spent on my mat moving through asanas or sitting in quiet meditation are meaningful ways to continue my practice of letting go. Trusting the process. Trusting whatever it is that’s out there running the show and looking after me. What we learn on our mats can follow us into other areas of our lives. We know this is why yoga is called a practice, right? Because, as humans, it takes us a while to get things right.
I’ve been starting my mornings with meditation and mudras, followed by listening to Jason Mraz’s “Living in the Moment.” If you don’t know the song, here are some of the lyrics, and a link to it on YouTube. Warning: It’s an earworm.
If this life is one act
Why do we lay all these traps?
We put them right in our path
When we just wanna be free
I will not waste my days
Making up all kinds of ways
To worry about all the things
That will not happen to me
Thank you, Jason Mraz, for the reminder.